|Painting by Arna Baartz|
“The victim who is able to articulate the situation of the victim
has ceased to be a victim: he or she has become a threat.”
We live in a world that doesn’t like the word victim.
The meaning of victim, according to the Merriam-Webster online dictionary, is:
- a person who has been attacked, injured, robbed, or killed by someone else.
- a person who is cheated or fooled by someone else.
- someone or something that is harmed by an unpleasant event (such as an illness or accident).
There is no shame in any of that. Any shame lies with the perpetrator.
What comes up for you when you think of yourself as a victim?
How would it feel to name, claim and release your victimhood?
Articulate your victim-hood. You may want to create a separate Word document or journal.
Mary Daly wrote that “Women have had the power of naming stolen from us.” Take back your
power by naming and claiming it all. Then, set it aside for now. You may want to share it
eventually. There is tremendous power in sharing our stories.
You may also want to burn it—or rip it to shreds.
Daily Thought: When I look at you I see myself.
Daily Suggestion: Clench your fists, open your hands; feel it.
An excerpt from New Love: a reprogramming toolbox for undoing the knots
“What would happen if one woman told the truth about her life? The world would split open.”